Milspouses
The moves, the instability, the mixed messages, the unknown…
Your service member has made the sacrifice to serve the country - but so have you. Spouses serve too, and the self-sacrifice involved in that is very real. We give up careers, dreams, stability - to support our partner who supports our country. Whether you work full time, stay at home with the kids, or somewhere in the middle - your work is important too and no less tiresome.
People can pretend that they understand what you’re going through - but we know they really don’t get it unless they’ve been through it themselves. They mean well, but you still feel isolated and alone.
As a full time working mom and a milspouse myself - I get it.
You don’t have to explain to me what a PCS is, or how your personal belongings will likely arrive to your new location months after you do.
Or how you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about anything, because of OPSEC or the simple fact that word in the military community spreads faster than wildfire.
Or how every time there is a natural disaster or political crisis, your stress increases tenfold because you don’t know how this will affect your family, and your partner’s safety + presence in the home.
Or how you can’t make any future plans, because you have no idea when your spouse is done with their next training, when they’re coming back, or what your next station is.
I promise you that I get it,
and you’re not alone.